Killing an orgasm

It does not take much for a woman to lose/stop sexual arousal and not reach an orgasm.

Typically, if the woman does not have health issues, this problem will rarely be caused by physical factors except if clitoral stimulation is done beyond the sense of comfort, i.e. too long, too hard, or without needed lubrication (remember: the clitoris does not self-lubricate!).

For a woman to get sexually aroused, she has to ‘shut down’ her working mind and let herself get into those ‘body nice’ sensations, kind of like the high of eating the best chocolate dessert ever…

Potential ‘stop signs’ that will kill arousal and orgasm include:

• A preoccupied mind — the inability to stop thinking about other matters such as the dishes in the sink, the job project that is due tomorrow, etc.
• A worried mind: will the kids walk in? Will the parents hear us? Shall I answer the phone that is ringing? Will my partner notice the weight I put on recently?
• Sexual concerns: It takes me longer to ‘get there’ and I feel bad for him… Am I clean enough down there? I don’t know how to tell my partner how I prefer to be stimulated… Am I as good (in bed) as his last girlfriend? Should I just fake it and get it over with??????

An important fact: women will not necessarily orgasm every time they are stimulated and may, at times, ‘lose it’ without an apparent reason. However, this should not be happening on a regular basis.

Bottom line: the female’s mind acts as a sexual filter and ‘clogging’ will kill the pleasure. Be attuned to your ‘stop signs’ so that you will be able to enjoy the sexual act to its fullest.