Women with vaginismus will often try to self-cure using a home dilator kit.
The key question that comes up is “how long should I try the dilators to know if they are helpful?”
The answer depends on the particulars of each woman. But, generally speaking, if you use them 4-5 times weekly over a period of 4-6 weeks and have not yet perfected the entire set then you may need professional intervention.
Clarification: using the dilators for a long time is not a problem, but endlessly struggling with the associated panic/anxiety is because it may further complicate the vaginismus.