Vaginismus is the inability, or great difficulty, to have basic vaginal penetrations: finger, tampons, vaginal applicator, gynecologic exam, and intercourse (or dildo). If you suffer from it or know someone who does, you can appreciate their physical and emotional anguish.
But what if your friend/daughter/whomever tells you that she has vaginismus and you’ve never heard of it before? The common reaction is, “Vaginismus, what? What do you mean you cannot use your vagina? Just relax and let it happen…”
Such lack of understanding will make the sufferer feel even more isolated and inadequate…
Suggestion: let her know that although you may not know what vaginismus is all about you are behind her and will help find support and resources. Team up with her. Give her hope. Make her feel that she is still equal to you despite her medical condition (vaginismus).
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